Journal of Personality and Social Psychology · 1993 · 30 citations · 0 references
Social SciencesPsychologySocial PsychologyMoral PsychologyEmpathyExistential PsychologyIntimacyGrief In Relationships
Unreciprocated romantic attraction was studied through comparative narrative analysis. Unrequited love is a bilaterally distressing experience marked by mutual incomprehension and emotional interdependence, with would‑be lovers experiencing both positive and intensely negative emotions and believing the attraction was mutual, whereas rejectors are uniformly negative, see themselves as morally innocent yet guilty, and view the would‑be lover’s persistence as intrusive.
Unreciprocated romantic attraction was explored by comparing narrative accounts. Unrequited love emerged as a bilaterally distressing experience marked by mutual incomprehension and emotional interdependence. Would-be lovers looked back with both positive and intensely negative emotions, whereas rejectors were more uniformly negative in their accounts. Unlike rejectors, would-be lovers believed that the attraction had been mutual, that they had been led on, and that the rejection had never been communicated definitely. Rejectors depicted themselves as morally innocent but still felt guilty about hurting someone; many rejectors depicted the would-be lover's persistent efforts as intrusive and annoying