Living in a World without Closure: Reality for Parents who have Experienced the Death of a Child

Abstract

The death of a child has been described as being for parents one of the most traumatic of losses. Nevertheless, information about how parents experience transition through the death trajectory is lacking. This phenomenological study explored parents' lived experienced of transitioning through the death of a child. Twenty-eight bereaved parents (17 mothers, 11 fathers) took part in retrospective, open-ended interviews. Findings showed that, regardless of the time, parents continued to live in a world without closure and, more importantly, did not want to experience closure in their transitioning. To parents, "closure" meant an end to their child in every sense of the word. Their experience of living in a world without closure was supported by four themes: "keeping the memories alive", "being a good parent", "being there at my child's death", and "being there for me after my child dies". Findings yield new insights into how parents live with the death of a child.